[00:00:00] These are the outdated tips we are going to leave behind in 2023. I think I need to start with body trends. We are going to leave behind trying to achieve other people's bodies. This is something that we don't have to subscribe to.
And I am telling you, we need to stop. The whole Kim Kardashian, the whole 90s. Super skinny, chic looks. We all have our own body, and each of us is beautiful. The healthier we are, the better we treat our bodies if we're moving, if we're exercising, lifting weights, eating what is in alignment with our own digestion and nutrition.
This is the trend. Your body is the trend. It takes being confident. It takes embodying who you are and knowing when you walk into the room, you are the epitome of beauty, [00:01:00] not as a self centeredness, as a confidence that you are your own epitome of beauty.
your shape, whether you have a flat ass or a bubble butt, whether you are shaped like a triangle, a rectangle, a ruler, it does not matter. You are the epitome of beauty because confidence is what is beautiful. So the tip that we are leaving behind is we are not going to Follow fashion trends, body trends, any kind of trends.
We are doing us. So that means, surgery trends, we don't need those because we are beautiful how we are. If you want to get something done for you, for your own confidence, that's fine. But if it is a trend, let's say like the big booties, I'm going to use booties because that seems to have been a trend that was [00:02:00] going on forever.
And now maybe not the surgical enhancement as much of a trend, which is. That is even worse than what I'm talking about. I'm not even necessarily talking about surgical trends. I'm really talking about looking at our body and trying to shape it like someone else's body. I don't have the biggest butt. And when I was growing up, Thin was in,
it was the low rise jeans, it was the Lindsay Lohan, the Paris Hiltons, the Britney Spears, their main goal was how tiny can we get? Now, I have a very similar body shape to these people. And so, I naturally gravitated towards those lower rise jeans, it wasn't so much the trend as that it fit my body type.
This Body type of having a bigger butt, a narrow waist. That's great for women who naturally have bigger [00:03:00] butts and narrower waist. And yes, you can go to the gym and work on your glutes. I do that. I eat in alignment with my energetics. I eat in alignment with my hormones.
I focus on metabolism. And I go to the gym and I work on my glutes. Not so that I can get a butt like anyone else. So that I can have a butt that I am confident in. Because I do naturally have a small backside. I have naturally wider shoulders. I have naturally stronger arms. And do they look huge? No, because I don't work them out as much.
If I worked them out as much as I could, I would be very lopsided. But I work out the way that makes my body its best. And so when I walk in the room, I'm not worried about the fact that girl has a bigger butt than me, or that girl's waist is [00:04:00] smaller than mine, or that girl looks more toned, or that girl is taller.
No. We walk into the room as if we are the epitome of our own beauty. And that can mean following people who look like you. That can mean following people who talk about you. Being the best version of yourself. This might mean not following some celebrities that are pushing body standards that you will never attain.
Now, it's not necessary. If you can build that confidence, and feeling like you are the epitome of the beauty standard, your body is what it's meant to be, and you focus on improving your body and not comparing it to other people's bodies, we are going to be in a much better place. So I wanted to start off with that one because I knew it was going to be more of a rant, but I am impassioned by this.
As a woman who grew up in the 90s and early 2000s, I am now in my [00:05:00] 40s. I don't have the body shape that is considered trendy, but now all these people that got BBLs and all these other things, it looks like they're kind of reverting back to being lean. So how about we all just be happy with where we're at?
And yes, I know most people aren't going to extremes, but you don't have to be extreme for it to affect your confidence. And that's what we're talking about. I want you to be confident with where you are now. And all the things you do come from a place of confidence. Number two, the tip that we can, that is outdated, that we can leave behind is eating every two hours, trying to rev up our metabolisms. Because one, you're probably going to be eating more than you need to.
You're not going to allow yourself to tune into natural hunger cues. If you want to be intuitive, if you want to be embodied, you want to get to a place where you allow yourself to trust yourself of when am I hungry and when am I not hungry. If [00:06:00] you're just eating every two hours, first of all, you're not allowing yourself to get to that state of hunger.
Second, your insulin is. going to be spiked because every time you eat, your insulin gets spiked. And this is not good for your blood sugar. High blood sugar is not going to be good for weight loss. It's not revving up your metabolism the way you think it is. It's not going to offset the extra calories you might be eating.
You're better off focusing on increasing your protein. Allowing yourself space to not eat and
allowing yourself to get to places where you're hungry enough where really healthy food is tasty. If you're not really hungry, you're less likely to reach for healthy foods. You're more likely to reach for junk food. Because you're eating for another reason.
You don't really get the metabolism boost you think you're getting. You're going to be increasing your blood sugars. When you are eating basically all day, you are [00:07:00] going to be triggering an insulin response all day long, which is not great for weight loss and your overall health.
So I would say, ideally, eat three times a day. If you do need a snack, Make it small enough so it's not considered another meal, but really three meals a day I think is fine. . Another tip that is outdated that we need to leave behind is low fat foods.
We need to stop eating foods that have fat that they're removing the fat in because basically they're just increasing sugars, fake sugars. And healthy fats are vital for hormone production. So, I basically revolve my eating around getting in healthy fats. Fats like walnuts, olive oils, coconut oils, different nuts and seeds.
Fats are Very important. Yes, they have more calories [00:08:00] per gram, but if you're eating a balanced diet, that should not be your main concern. If you're eating whole foods along with enough protein, you won't be overeating. Especially if you're tuning into your hunger signals. So, we do not want to be eating low fat foods.
Usually you'll, they won't be satisfying. You'll end up eating more alright, tip number four that we can absolutely leave behind. I've said this before, I'll say it again. excessive cardio. We need to leave this in 2023. We need to focus on weightlifting. Cardio is great for health to an extent. If you are trying to release weight, too much cardio, the wrong kind of cardio can negate your desired results.
It can negate your ability to put on lean muscle, which is a metabolism stoker. It [00:09:00] can negatively affect how you look. It can cause you to be more hungry, and it can leave you thinking you can eat a lot more than you can. Because most people are not burning anywhere near enough, or they're, they're not burning as much as they think they are.
The machines are wrong, your body's getting used to it, and so you're not making the dent that you think you're making. Your efforts are going to be better utilized focusing on Healthy foods and being in a slight calorie deficit and weight training and then supplementing with cardio for the health benefits weight training.
I would go as far to say also for most people that should be what you do first, not cardio and then weights because you want to have the energy. You want your energy to be fresh. You want to kind of go into your weight training session, like ready to attack those weights. And so if you do cardio first, you're already going to be tired.
And then the time you spend in the weight room or wherever [00:10:00] you're doing your weights is not going to be as beneficial. So we really want to focus on slight calorie deficit, eating the right food. So we're not. overly hungry and weight training so that the food that we're eating, the protein we're eating is getting redirected to the muscle so that not only are we releasing the unwanted fat, we are also maintaining or even building muscle.
So our metabolism is being ignited or protected. If you are one of these people that are still doing an hour or more of cardio every single day, and you're not seeing the results that you want, and maybe you're even gaining weight, Reconsider. You don't have to stop cardio altogether, but what I would do is start to taper back the cardio, add in at least three days of weight training, and then not do cardio on those days, and then even on those days, [00:11:00] start to dial it back a little bit.
Is more of a general guideline that I'm just kind of throwing out there for you. If I'm working with you one on one, we would take it a lot more specific.
Last tip that we need to leave in 2023 that is completely outdated following a specific diet
and what do I mean by that? There is not one diet for everyone. And I don't understand why people still go around saying, this is the one diet that everyone should be following. Because it is not. true. There is no science that directs everyone to one diet. All of the science, depending on who's cherry picking it, depending on what people's beliefs are, depending on who's funding it comes out with a different conclusion.
I am going to go so far as to say your diet should be as unique as your fingerprint. Your diet is unique as your [00:12:00] body, as your style. Now, there are generalities that are across the board.
Is it healthier and better to have a diet that is more, Whole foods versus processed foods, where they process the nutrition out of it. Yes, it has been shown that whole foods, the nutrients in that food come together and are exponentially healthier. They're actually created. To coexist. So just like when you are in a group of people and you are collaborating, it's not just your mind, their mind, their mind, their mind.
It is the combination of minds together that create the exponential results. That channel downloads that would not have been there. Discovered alone. I see this with people and energy. There's certain people that I'm around and both of our energies like just exponentially grow in a way [00:13:00] that they wouldn't buy ourselves.
We become better together. So whole foods have this magic that there's certain nutrients that when they come together in this very specific Amount that only nature can create and reproduce Do they become this whole other thing? So in that aspect whole foods are always going to trump a processed food Whole foods are always going to trump a supplement or a vitamin or a mineral And even processed foods that have those vitamins and minerals added back in.
It's the magic of the whole food that is going to make all of the difference. A little bit I add into that is that you do have a uniqueness when it comes to your energetics and it kind of goes into how you digest food and the way you move and how your energy is affected by that.
It does like give you that little bit of advantage where it can allow you to tune out what everyone [00:14:00] else is saying that doesn't feel right and is not right for you. What's healthy for one person is not healthy for you if it's not in alignment.
So those are the five tips that I would say are outdated. I hope you found that beneficial. If you guys want any help in 2024 to reach your dream body and you want to do it in a way that aligns with your unique energetics, releases any limiting beliefs. And overcome self sabotage, then definitely reach out to me on any social media.
I will have them all linked below and there's a couple opportunities to work with me for free, some free resources and all the different ways that you can reach out and work with me one on one or in a group setting. Thank you for watching Dream Body Alchemy and I will see you next Wednesday.
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